The inequality between men and women has always been around the block for a gazillion years now. It is not something new, and it is actually getting old by the minute. Being a millennial at this point of time, I think the topic of who is actually better than one another (man vs. woman), is so yesterday that sometimes I do not see the point why men are still degrading women. It makes me think why and how close-minded people can be, especially, when that person is from generation Y too. It is sad to know that sexism is still widespread because really, who cares if you are a man or a woman? I have this mantra that as long as you are not stepping on anybody’s toes or not doing anything wrong, you are going to be fine in this world.
There are a lot of characteristics that are being labeled to women as if these characteristics do not exist in men. These are my personal observations on what the society has labeled women, compared to men. Like, when men are making the first move to the woman they like, it is normal, yes, it is. But when a woman makes the first move, she comes off as aggressive. When a man is dating different women at once, he is so macho and charismatic. But when a woman does that, she is a slut. When a man gets what he wants, he is confident and he deserves it. But when a woman fights for what she wants and gets it, she is a bitch. When a man dates his friend’s ex-girlfriend, it is accepted, but when a woman dates his friend’s ex-boyfriend she is a slut and a bitch. When a man is a bad driver, he maybe is just having a bad day or drunk. But when a woman is driving, she is a definition of a bad driver.
From personal experience with my father, he always think of women as the kind of people who will sacrifice their (working) life and stay at home once they got married with a man. My father has 4 daughters and he would “jokingly” tells us he should not have let us studied college since we are just going to get married, stay at home, and pour our life and heart out to our future husbands and children. My sisters and I would raise our eyebrows and say, “As if!” Hearing all my father’s antics about being a woman makes me think about the man I would marry, and I just told myself, I would not want a man as close-minded as my father. It is degrading, especially, coming from your father, who you thought would support you and tell you to not surrender completely to your future husband. Thinking that he would say the opposite and tell us that we should not let society and men dictate us who we are, and all those women empowerment “speech” that would really, well, empower us.
Moving on, I think that women are having a tough time compared to men in climbing the corporate ladder because society expects more from women. Society expects women to do great and at the same time, expect them to fail, just so they can prove that women, after all, are nothing compared to men. There are always judging eyes and wishing for a woman’s fall down, especially when she is at her peak. Some people would kill to see them fall. We live in a society where we are intimidated with women, more than we are intimidated with men. Generally, we can accept if a man is successful, but a woman? Come on! We think that empowered, confident women–women who know what they want are bitches who cannot be tamed. When really, they are just empowered and confident women who are out to do what they want because they can. We need to stop obsessing about whether a woman deserves her position or not. If she is a CEO, or somewhere close to the top, then she is, because she deserves it. No questions asked. And maybe, instead of gossiping and involving yourself in a backstabbing marathon at the office, people could work their way up, like the woman on top of the ladder.
As a girl who loves to read magazine and would love to work in one after college, I am familiar with some of the Philippines’ publishing industry’s bosses. And one thing I noticed is these women have higher roles than Anna Wintour of Vogue–both One Mega Group Inc. and Summit Publishing’s CEO are women. One Mega Group is the home of Lifestyle Asia, Mega, and Meg magazine–some of today’s prestigious magazines are headed by CEO, Sari Yap. On the other hand, Preview, Esquire, Candy, YES! are managed by Lisa Gokongwei. Moreover, there is Charo Santos-Concio, who is ABS-CBN Corporation’s Executive and President. They are all women that are inspiring and I think, we, women, who want to be empowered in our future workplace, should aspire to. Thinking of how many people respect them and follow their rules is just amazing. It makes me think how it is not an over-the-moon concept. It will be very hard to achieve, but it is not something unattainable. I can say that naysayers can talk all they want but hard work really pays off.